Finding comfort during times of transition: 5 easy self care strategies

Finding comfort during times of transition: 5 easy self care strategies

Here in Australia it is transitioning from winter into spring. Many of our trees are flowering and bulbs bringing welcome bursts of colour and scent are blooming. The temperatures are starting to rise and the thoughts of buying summer hats have flitted across my mind for the first time in months. The energy in the air is palpable.

Another season is being ushered in, and time is moving on. As it always does. This past winter has been long and cold and dark. Longer and colder and darker than any I can remember anyway. There were weeks upon weeks of wishing for the warmth and the buds on the trees, any sign at all that things were changing. And then little by little, it was here.

And so it is with seasons of our lives....

On civil rights. An invitation to a conversation for those who are considering voting 'no' in the same sex marriage plebiscite in Australia

On civil rights. An invitation to a conversation for those who are considering voting 'no' in the same sex marriage plebiscite in Australia

In Australia there is a burning civil rights issue at play. Actually there are a few, but there is one in particular on my mind. The non-binding plebiscite vote which would be a vote of confidence to expand the definition of marriage to include same sex couples in Australia. Currently this issue is dividing Australia. In the community that I live in and the circles of friends I keep, it is unfathomable that we would deny people a basic human right such as this. And yet. In the broader Australian community this (very) heated discussion is sending a message to a section of our community that they are lower, or lesser than heterosexual couples by the very act of denying their equal right to choose to marry the person they love.

Feeling out of control? Here are 4 easy ways to contain yourself.

Feeling out of control? Here are 4 easy ways to contain yourself.

There are seasons of life that are challenging. Perhaps it is where we have things go wrong unexpectedly, such as a sudden influx of learning or personal growth. Or perhaps illness, moving, job change. Whatever it is that has you feeling 'undone' and unable to right yourself, you may find it useful to feel contained.

How to normalise the struggle - helping kids become more resilient

How to normalise the struggle - helping kids become more resilient

he thing about life is that to live is to struggle. Everyone struggles. We often rebel against the discomfort, shutting down, avoiding or dismissing the opportunity. Trying to stay still, which of course, is not a long term option. We must be able to live with and work with, struggle. And yet, we often have trouble with idea. Sometimes we want others to do it for us. This concept reminds me of the idea of helping a butterfly emerge from the cocoon, the very act of struggle brings strength. In fact, if you assist the butterfly to emerge, it's often not strong enough to survive.

Building resilience - one easy way to access your strengths

Building resilience - one easy way to access your strengths

I talk with clients regularly about what they are thinking about just as they are going to sleep. Do you know what most of them say? They tell me they are thinking about what happened during the day that didn't work that well, or worrying about tomorrow and what pressures they might feel. When we unpack this we always agree that these thoughts cause pain and/or stress.

It can be a habit to think about the not-so-good things, and it is also a biological wiring that leads us to focus on the negative. You may have come across the idea that we are wired to see things negatively and that it takes three positive things to neutralise every one negative perception. It's thought this human predisposition to spot threats in the environment comes from our ancestors who had to be aware of predators in their radius i.e. lions, tigers etc. These days most of us experience threats as psychological not physical and yet we still use this system every day.