Blowing it up versus feeling powerful

Blowing it up versus feeling powerful

Are you the kind of person who folds themselves into a smaller space to make room for other people on public transport? Or are you a person who spreads their arms and legs out to make less room for someone to sit next to you. Or, are you someone who just sits and takes up the space that you do.

Today's post is for those who don't take up their space and who want to.

The Drier and the Chicken: Helpful Analogies for the Busy

The Drier and the Chicken: Helpful Analogies for the Busy

Hello! So you have all been incredibly supportive of my foray into photos and being styled/dressed for the launch of Project Strength. I'm incredibly grateful. Thank you. My plan is to launch this business for realsies in February next year, but it all starts now with getting my metaphorical house in order. Which is why I share with you the following story from last week. It has gotten me thinking, and as I sit in my studio writing with unfinished tasks scattered around me (clothes and shoes from this morning's photo shoot etc) with a fair bit of the crazy going on for me personally, I remember this story from last week. So I take a deep breath, and work out what I can paint around vs what has to be done fully. Here's the full story...

The launch of Project Strength: An experiment. Join me?

Today feels like the beginning. For the past 12 months I have been finding my feet in the online world of building a brand, which is essentially a question about me. Who am I? What does this  mean? What do I want my life's work to look like? Where do I start? And then refining and  developing my voice in terms of content, style and interests. Before I launched this website, I was a corporate type person, with a passion for understanding psychology. So, at the end of 2009, I started a (very) long road towards registration as a Psychologist, and well, I am nearly there. As this bucket list dream becomes a reality, I find myself at a career junction. And I am wholeheartedly ready to throw myself into a project that has been a lifetime in the making.

Building and launching this small business that is me. A business around the wonderful world of relationships. How they work, when they work best, what to do when they aren't working. Looking at them through the eyes of you as an individual, you as a member of your significant relationship, you as a member of your family/work team/community. This is a strength of mine, and it shows up through the passion I have for the topic everyday.

This project is all about the ability to be true to yourself, the most important job you will have. Let's use this image to remind ourselves of what can happen if you just go for it. Who would have thought this tree could grow so beautifully in the middle of the ocean. On a rock. Photo by Barrie Johnson on Unsplash

This project is all about the ability to be true to yourself, the most important job you will have. Let's use this image to remind ourselves of what can happen if you just go for it. Who would have thought this tree could grow so beautifully in the middle of the ocean. On a rock.

Photo by Barrie Johnson on Unsplash

A strength is something that brings you energy, focus and vibrancy. You know you are playing in a strength because you want to find more ways to do it, you become animated, with an open and engaging energy and rising inflections on your words.  Lots of the corporate work I do incorporates the idea of using your strengths to your advantage. It fills up your energy buckets, because it feels so good to be in our strengths our energy cup runneth over. When that happens you feel more powerful, like you are making a contribution to the world, which is something that humans really value. So with all this in mind, I have made the decision to focus on my strengths for a year to see what happens. I was thinking you could play along at home too, and find a way to bring your strengths to life. To start, you'll need to figure out what those strengths are. The easiest way is to go to this strengths finder and complete the short questionnaire: https://www.viacharacter.org/survey/account/register

What would happen if we said 'no' to the things that bring us down, and instead follow that internal whisper, which says 'over here, come this way'. Photo by Drew Hays on Unsplash

What would happen if we said 'no' to the things that bring us down, and instead follow that internal whisper, which says 'over here, come this way'. Photo by Drew Hays on Unsplash

According to my VIA profile, my top 3 strengths lie in 1) my love of learning, 2) thinking things through and weighing all the evidence to form a viewpoint, 3) helping others/myself make sense of the world through providing counsel.  

To put this in my work goals, I love talking about relationships, helping people resolve conflicts in their relationships and doing so in a variety of mediums. My favourite mediums are live, face to face and via camera. I feel so energised in these spaces, that I want to see what happens when I systematically focus my time and energy in them. This is what I am going to do. Starting today. 

So what say you? Do you want to join me? Come on over to my Facebook page and lets talk...

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The Circle Analogy; Separating other's experiences from your own

The Circle Analogy; Separating other's experiences from your own

I work a lot with groups of clients. Very often these groups comprise of leaders and quite regularly they are a mix of people leaders and team members. I've spent countless hours working with people to grasp the concepts I talk about here on this blog.

The people who approach me to work with me 1:1 quite often have a different outlook to the work that I do, in comparison to those who are allocated to a session I am running through the organisation they work for. It makes sense on paper doesn't it. In the individual work I do, people self select to work with me, whereas often in the corporate space they are required to attend, or perhaps they are happy to be there, but are thinking about the piles of work mounting in the background whilst they are away. An of course, there are likely to be many other reasons as well that have them sitting in a room with me, feeling resistant.

You can go your own way. Here's some supportive ideas.

You can go your own way. Here's some supportive ideas.

We spend our childhoods being shaped by the family and community system that we live in.

Adults that work with me tend to find themselves 'awakening' in their 30's and 40's only to realise that there is more to life then the confines from which they came. Often they end up talking with me because they don't know how to break free. How to grant themselves permission. How to write a new map, a new story and move away from the system that created them.